I believe developing your self-security and self-esteem is one of the most important journeys in life.
This means: practicing self-compassion and gratitude, prioritizing your wants and needs, and presenting yourself authentically to the world.
And throughout that lofty pursuit, there’s usually room for improvement in how you express your self-security in interactions with other people. Small tweaks can completely change people’s perceptions of you.
I often write about choosing compatible, high-quality people to date.
But sometimes in that pursuit, you still chase the hard-to-get, uncommunicative, or “crazy” girl because she’s hot…and you want to sleep with her.
No big deal, right?
But our actions always have consequences.
I see this all the time with guys: they find a girl they’re insanely attracted to and throw all reason out the window.
There’s a great feeling of accomplishment in doing something yourself. Being “self-made” is often seen as the American dream.
And so, asking for help can seem like a failure or a cheap way out. It hurts your pride to admit you can’t do it alone.
But, let me remind you…
All that is beautiful and breathtaking in this world was built on the previous work of others. Every invention, building, and scientific breakthrough required collaboration and support. There was always a previous source of inspiration to improve upon.
Let’s set the record straight.
If women always tell you, “You’re a great guy but I don’t feel that spark…”
It’s because they don’t feel a sexual connection with you. And that’s most likely because you haven’t taken the right actions to facilitate that attraction.
You may be sweet and have engaging conversations. You make women laugh. You wait patiently until a girl’s comfortable with you.
I grew up during the baby stages of the world wide web. I’m talking AOL 2.0 CDs, Lycos searches, and my Dragon Ball Z Geocities page.
The internet helped me communicate with people around the world in ways I never thought possible. It’s beaming my voice to you right now.
The internet is arguably the most impactful technological creation of my lifetime.