In an ideal world, your experience with using an international dating website would look like this:
You sign up. You explore the site and view some profiles. You find someone you like (or she finds your profile). You start a wonderful correspondence.
You get to know each other as online messages, emails, or letters become regular. You take the correspondence further by speaking on the phone, or having webcam chats. You agree later on to meet in person. You meet in person and like each other even more. You decide to take the relationship really seriously, or even end up getting married.